To Kill a Lion
First Edition Design ebook Publishing
Publication date: November 2011
Digital Book format: ePub (Adobe DRM)
"I know it's wrong, but why can't I stop?" "To Kill a Lion" answers this cry of so many men who are caught in the web of sexual lust. It was written to both people helpers/counselors and strugglers. It is written from a Christian perspective. "To Kill a Lion" is a journey to the control room where lust is conceived. The philosophy of the book is that uncontrollable lust, like any addiction, is a symptom of a deeper issue, or issues, and that overcoming sexual addiction is not just about changing what you do, but it is about transforming the heart. It means that men discover authentic manhood as designed by the Creator, and then align themselves with it. Within these pages men will learn the magnificent glory of being sexual along with the magnificent freedom of being pure. Through a straightforward, graphic look at the devices of the enemy, men will learn how lust works, where fetishes originate, and how to walk free of Satan's sexual tyranny. Men will learn how to get free of law, behavior modification, and emotional wounds that drive lust, while discovering the freedom to truly desire purity more than lust. The author writes, "Many men feel hopelessly doomed to battle lust the rest of their life. But the Son can set them free, and He wants to set men free everywhere. I have also written this book so that men will know how to set other men free." How is To Kill a Lion Different? The author doesn't necessarily consider "To Kill a Lion" a better book than others, but his focus is to "take up where other books stop." There are great books available that address the unacceptable nature of sexual immorality. But there are also many books on this subject that say, "It's wrong! Don't do it!" but don't give men real answers to overcoming their problem. Books such as this are either in the category of surface fixing/behavior modification, or they take a shame-based approach--compounding the problem by prescribing law as a fix instead of the power of a changed heart. Another difference is that the author believes that men, after reading many of the books on sexual purity, are left with the feeling that their strong sexuality is the enemy. In "To Kill a Lion" men will learn the wonderful nature of male sexuality--that God made men sexual. Men's sexuality, when focused in a healthy way, is behind creativity, intimacy, relational sensitivity, passion and risk. Not Free To Versus Free Not To: The author declares that very little of what is written in the book came out of study of other books, but it was learned through his own personal struggle with lust. He also learned much from other men throughout his years as a professional counselor and pastor. The book was written over the course of fifteen years. The core concept in the book is the journey from not free to, to free not to. Not free to means, "I would love to, but I'm not allowed." Free not to means, "I am free to actually desire purity more than immorality." When a man is "not free to" all he can do is depend on his will and TRY AND TRY; but the man who is "free not to" lives from a resource of victory within his own heart. This does NOT mean that a free man does not get tempted or that sexy things are no longer interesting; it just means that he has an inner power, through Christ, to walk above the domineering control of lust. Part of getting free is realizing that sexual addiction is a psychological/physiological fix that medicates a pain or pains deep in one's heart. The reader will learn how a strained relationship with a father can produce a craving for illicit sex. The same can happen when a man has a "mother wound." Sexual addiction can come from a corrupting of the formative years of sexuality through pornography, sexual abuse, first sexual experiences, and other dynamics that open doorways that seem impossible to close. Throughout the book the author relates his own personal experiences of how he found freedom from the grip of lust.